My mother told me over and over again I could be anything I wanted and along the way I should always do my best because then I wouldn’t have any regrets.
She was right on all counts.
I dreamed of med school because science is fascinating. I took Latin in High School to prepare for the medical terms I would learn in college. I was preparing to make a dream a reality.
The Universe made a different decision for me. I became a mother at 18 and med school stayed a dream for a long time. I let the dream go about 10 years ago when I realized I would have to dissect insects that I am frankly terrified of looking at never mind actually touching them.
Long before then, my dream changed. In drips and drabs I began to realize writing story is what I want to do and do well. So I changed my dream. I still could have gone to med school even at 43, but to what end? I can write a doctor into my story and she’ll have better hours and much more time with her kids.
Like my mother I told my kids they could be whatever they wanted and I would be there for them. I support them through whatever comes and step back when they need to be on their own (wringing my hands as I watch from a distance). They too are like me as I am like my Mom – dreamers seizing their day.
Carpe diem et desiderium nusquam
(loosely translated: Seize the Day and Regret Nothing)